What does it do to you?

Being scared, angry and sad because your mum or dad has cancer is really normal. Let’s see what other kids have to say.

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Feeling alone Some children feel very alone. It feels like you are the only one with a mum or dad with cancer. Maybe it helps a little if you know that it isn’t true. That’s why we made this website. Especially for all those children who have a mother or father with cancer.

Not being able to sleep That’s a big problem. It does make you very tired, doesn’t it? Have you ever tried thinking of something nice? Close your eyes, go to a beautiful spot in the woods or on the beach in your head. Feel the warm sand, can you hear the waves?

Stomachache and headache
Sometimes you´re so tired or so anxious that you get stomachache or a headache. That’s quite normal. Don’t go and think that you are ill too, but try to have some time out every now and then. Just curl up with a comic on the sofa. Email us if you have any other ideas.

Fingers in your ears All that going on about cancer! Maybe you don’t want to hear anything about it. Of course, that’s fine too, but sometimes that´s hard. Important things have to be talked about. But it can also feel like it’s only about cancer, that everybody starts talking about it and that the phone rings the whole day. Try to work a way out with your mum or dad.

Different from your brother or sister Maybe you react differently from your brother or sister. Maybe your brother wants to talk about it all and you really don’t. Or maybe your sister wants to go to hospital and you´d rather not. That is all okay, because everybody deals with it in her/his own way.

Be happy, don´t give up and be strong Actually that’s by far the most important thing of all. Write a postcard, make a drawing, be strong, don´t give up hope. Is your birthday party not going ahead? Next month it might. Can´t you go on holiday at the moment? Let´s hope next year you will!